Baby Fever


 It was a funny revelation that came over me as I was talking to my close friend who recently attended another one of my friends (listed below) baby shower. I was unable to go so he shared his baby registry with me. Stating of course, like any man, "you don't have to get us anything." I told him to give me the information and proceeded to purchase the items. Note to parents * it's all about the baby and making sure the baby is good * that's what friends are for. We love you.

As a modern age woman, we sometimes forget we have a biological clock until it starts ticking, and well mine only ticks when I'm in love. I would assume it's broken but I'm not in a hurry to fix it. Anyways, my point is that we don't have forever to get pregnant and settle down into a partnership. So sometimes when I start to feel that itch I just go look at baby items and I realized how expensive they are and I realize that I'm not ready. Not being ready is something a lot of people deal with because you can never fully plan for a baby. But you can be personally ready for one and financially responsible. As women all we can hope for is to be the best mother/person we can be and that our children will be happy and healthy. We also hope for loving and supportive spouses but my aunt would say, "Momma's baby and Daddy's maybe." < Yeah I said.

I've never been the girl who played with dolls all the time, dream of a having a big wedding, or having a bunch of kids. I'm just not that type of woman. Do I want kids??? That's a question I have yet to answer. I know kids are not in my immediate plans but maybe in my long term goals. I believe I'd be a great mom and maybe one day I will be but until then I have a beautiful God Son and I'm enjoying seeing my friends become parents ( ie I'm auntie Sonja). I also have a bunch of nieces and nephews who like to drive me crazy lol.
So if you want to cure your baby fever here's a few suggestions: Other than getting a dog.

  • Become a God Parent (know what's expected of you)
  • Go shopping for nothing but baby items and then add it up. That's right - you'll be putting it all back.
  • Hang out at the park on weekends where there are lots of moms and listen to them talk about their experience.
  • Baby sit a family members baby and let them go out for a night on the town.
  • Sit next to crying baby on a plane for more than 1 hour.
  • Tell your partner in joking manner, you want a baby, (see their reaction) lol.
  • Wait in line at the FoodStamp office for WIC (hey fill out a WIC application).
  • Watch a live birth of a family member or close friend's child.
  • Talk it over with your parents and ask them what their difficulties were in parenting.

All these things are just suggestion. If you really want to have a baby make sure you check with your doctor first and make sure you're ready financially.

Babies are amazing and I have really enjoyed the love I get from my nieces and nephews. I love seeing the world with a new set of eyes and being playful. Children can really teach you a lot about yourself and there's nothing wrong with having baby fever as a modern age woman. You can still be chic with a baby on your hip. Don't be ashamed about your natural instinct to want children and a family. As a black women I believe we get it the worse. It's hard find a spouse and the ideal family isn't always in our favor (will address in another post). But, you have to be the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. No baby or man will make you happy. So, assess your feelings and know what you really want before you jump the gun. I wish you all the best.
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This blog is NOT geared toward sexual orientation or gender classification. This blog is based solely on the blog authors experience and research. This blog is geared toward promoting a mixture of masculine and feminine attire and with an integrated genderless lifestyle.

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