Relationship Fever



STOP crying about being single. JUST STOP IT. Please. I know it's cuffing season and you're worried about sleeping alone, but... There is nothing like being single. It is the BEST time of your life. There are numerous lessons to be learned from being single.

What's my issue with being single?: no one ever taught me how to be single or showed me what single life looked like (happy). All I ever saw growing up was happy couples (in the day time) and never really saw the dirty laundry of the fighting and so forth. Yes, I saw my parents argue and get upset but they always gave each other space and time to handle their issues.

So now that I'm comfortable in my 20s, I'm learning how to be single, and it's not easy.

Now days people are saying, being single is taking your time and figuring things out. I still think people tie single to coupled or married. It is as if one doesn't come without the other. That's not true for the most part.

So what I do to combat the fever? or what can you do?

  • Do a photo challenge
  • Get a hobby
  • Get with positive "Single" friends who are just as happy as you
  • Date = A lot! Date a bunch of different men. (prepare to be a great girlfriend/wife if that's what you're shooting for.)
  • Meet a bunch of new people. Just get some associates.
  • Get out of your comfort zone. You need to go out and eat alone.
  • Get your finances in order
  • Get your education if that's what you want
  • Go work out because exercise is never bad
  • Travel, if you cannot afford an all exclusive trip, then get a hotel near by and stay there for a night or two
  • Learn to cook, I'm sorry, but you can't keep sweaters in your oven and expect to eat imaginary food
  • Get spiritual: meditate or go to church. Find some inter peace.
  • Network with the people you'd like to be like: See my article on "Get a Mentor" or talk to shrink/life coach
  • Volunteer: There are so many places, locally, nationally, and aboard. ie PeaceCorps, AmeriCorps, Big Sister/Brother, YMCA, etc.
  • Offer to walk someone's dog (walking and animals really help depression). You can get paid.
  • Learn a new language - give yourself a challenge. By completing small goals you will feel accomplished.
  • STOP THE NEGATIVE SELF TALK. CODEPENDENCY = IT'S OVER. Focus on things that make you happy.

There's no such thing as a relationship cure so being single is not a disease. It's a natural way of life. Marriage does not guarantee you will never be lonely again but if you find a reason to love yourself and spend enough quality time with 'you' then you'll never be lonely. If you love you then you'll never need to go looking for it and if a great person comes along then you've got twice as much love for yourself.

It's ok, you will not have relationship fever forever, and you'll realize being single is really fun.

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This blog is NOT geared toward sexual orientation or gender classification. This blog is based solely on the blog authors experience and research. This blog is geared toward promoting a mixture of masculine and feminine attire and with an integrated genderless lifestyle.

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